It’s 9:30 in the evening. The children are asleep, the kitchen is tidy, and there you both are in the living room, each on your phone. There were words again tonight — or worse, there were none at all. And somewhere between the tiredness and the knot in your stomach, a sentence takes shape, the one we don’t always dare say out loud: “we can’t go on like this.” When a couple reaches that point, the first idea that comes to mind is almost always the same: “maybe we should see s