People settle in another country for very different reasons: a post to take up, a new life, someone they are following, work they could no longer find at home, a country they had to leave. Some really chose it, others much less so. Whatever the reason for leaving, life elsewhere can bring a great deal of happiness. And yet, after a few months, you catch yourself raising your voice over the shopping, the paperwork, a sentence that came out wrong. You surprise yourself, you don

We all lose our temper sometimes. A flash of irritation, a rising voice, one word too many — and, almost at once, that little voice whispering: "I shouldn't have reacted like that." Many of us have the feeling that we have "an anger problem," and that feeling almost always comes wrapped in a little shame. How do we cope when anger overwhelms us? How do we say what's wrong without hurting the people we love? And above all, how do we stop feeling swept away by an emotion that,